Mature Bride? Fabulous!

Mature Bride? Fabulous!

She gripped a bouquet riddled with autumn anemones. The vibrant orange of the flowers collided with the deep maroon of her lipstick as she inhaled the soft fragrance. Patrons of the ceremony remained locked on her delicate and steady progression down the aisle. She stepped upon the first step and faced her lover. She was beauty, she was grace, she was 45 years old. There are certain stigmas behind being a mature bride. When in reality, getting married later in life has some marvelous benefits.

Though the average age of women getting married has fluctuated through the years, over the past decade, the age that women have married has increased. During times of war or economic crisis, couples tend to get married younger. For instance, during World War 2, the average age of marriage for women was approximately 20 years old. For the duration of the Korean War in 1950s, the average age of marriage was also 20 years old for women and it stayed consistent over the next 30 years. However, something changed in early 1990s, rapid socioeconomic accessibility, access to higher education, and the unimagined; independent women.

Regardless if house work is a collaborative effort, the domesticated ways of an older generation were out and in came the career woman. Northeast Ohio Weddings Magazine had the opportunity to discuss the increase in women who had decided to launch their careers prior to accepting their vows with Renita Rosa, assistant vice president and relationship manager at PNC Community Development Banking, a woman driven by the dollar sign who crossed the finish line with a ring.

“I believe marriage to be a bonding institution of two people before God which comes with a responsibility to know thyself. The younger, the less we know ourselves,” said Rosa.

With the experience both partners have encountered over a duration of time, it will be much easier for them to develop problem-solving skills and efficient coping mechanisms which will benefit you both, with marriage and finances.

In a study performed by Ashley E. Ermer and Christine M. Proulx, researchers at the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, marriage can provide individuals with additional social support, or partaking in a single friend group, which can be transferred to either spouse. Along with increased social support that both partners can share, networking outside of the shared friend group can also positively affect your marriage. Time apart can be necessary.

“With the passage of time, and with God’s blessing, we learn to know ourselves better; our weakness, our faults; our strengths. Albeit, our thighs are riddled with cellulite and our core not as firm, learning to know thyself and to love thyself becomes an undeniable asset. A mutual love requires this to maintain,” added Rosa.

At any age you find yourself engaged, marriage and, really, any serious partnership requires effort from both participants. Although you must know your partner, it is as equally important to know yourself.

Author: Nadia Wells,