Recipe For Love

RSVP with A Treat

Everybody’s familiar with RSVPs, those little obligations you have to fill out and send back ensuring your presence, or lack thereof, for the sake of a headcount to the event in question. While they’re easier to deal with nowadays considering a good majority of them are now online and sent through email, they actually began in the late eighteenth century in, you guessed it, Europe—the center of all things etiquette-related and elegantly inclined. But what does RSVP even mean?

The acronym stands for the French phrase, “Respondez, s’il vous plait”, or please respond. This was originally sent between the upper class in France and was eventually brought to America where it was picked up and continually used, unlike in France where it is no longer fashionable.
RSVPs nowadays are known to include name, yes or no response to attendance, number of persons attending, meal preference, and or dietary restrictions. It is also becoming more commonplace to have them digitized, as it cuts down on the sending and returning process by quite a lot.

However, many people still find it important to send a physical copy of the invitation as well as the RSVP, for posterity. More unique couples have even taken to putting a creative twist on their cards to make them memorable for everybody involved.

One couple, in particular, had a unique take on their RSVP that takes the cake—literally.

The Dean couple, who were married in Miamisburg, Ohio, value sentimentality and those they hold close. Their lovely wedding was a memorable occasion for the close friends, family, and community that attended, especially because they got to contribute in a special way.

During the wedding preparation, the Deans thought up a creative idea for their guests to be a bit more involved in the aftermath rather than just the ceremony itself.

Included with the RSVP card were two blank recipe cards meant for the guests to fill out and return with their decision of attendance. Without any further instructions, the guests had the full creative capacity to submit any recipe they wanted.

“We both decided it would be fun to include, whether we got any of them back or not,” the bride, Megan Dean, explained.

And receive they did. Though not everyone returned their recipe cards, the Deans received about twenty recipes back. The recipes themselves varied in food type and taste.

Dean recalls the recipes thoughtfully, “There wasn’t anything that really stood out, nothing out of the ordinary. Though I have to say, the Tex-Mex recipes were my favorite ones.”

She also mentions how a good majority of them were desserts, though she’s not complaining about that in the least.

“I think desserts were easier to think of, but there was such a variety that it wasn’t unwelcomed. We loved every recipe we got, even if we haven’t had the time to attempt them all,” she laughs.

But why go to all the trouble? A simple cookbook or internet search on social media sites like Pinterest or TikTok could easily replace this impromptu recipe collection, tenfold. To this, the bride says despite being able to look up recipes on their own, the sentimentality behind such a joint effort is undeniably invaluable to the couple. “The extra effort was surely worth it,” she confirms.

“It was special because they came from close friends, family, church friends, and schoolmates—the people who shaped and, essentially, made us—and I really liked that.”

When asked if she would go back and change her decision, Dean does not hesitate.

“The only thing I would change is maybe finding a better box to keep all the cards in,” she laughs. “I was a bit overwhelmed with the response that I didn’t plan ahead and ended up using whatever box I had on hand to keep everything together. I never got around to changing it out either, but maybe I should.”

Her selection in storage aside, she confirmed that both she and her husband are happy with the way things turned out for them. The memories they keep of their intimate wedding are filled with close friends and family and serve to remind them of how grateful they are for the community they grew up with.

Author: Emily Saldivar